Being Moi

Evening all. I hope you’re well? Or at least not curled up under the bed… and if you are, then be sure to stay hydrated. (Sending my love).

I’ve been MIA on my blog for a while. Other projects have demanded my attention, but tbh, I was licking my wounds. I needed a break. After the TFL campaign I attracted a lot of online criticism/abuse. The worst of which accused me of being the poster girl for crazy. Apparently because I’m slim, white and reasonably young then I can’t have real problems. I’m being used by corporations to glamorise mental illness. “A character from a Woody Allen film,” to be exact.

With all criticisms, I try to keep an open mind. It comes with the territory to a certain extent, right? Maybe I have f**ked up along the way and sometimes the feedback can be constructive.
But not this… what troubled me the most was that it came from ‘my people,’ the crazy ones. The people who I fight so hard to represent. Mental health care is NOT good enough, neither is treatment and don’t even get me started on stigma. I’ll never stop fighting for what every brain deserves.

So at the risk of being unpopular, allow me to address a few things:

  1. I am white yes. Not much I can really do about that. I certainly don’t have any say in who is chosen for campaigns etc. I would hate for the positive work done for mental health to be tainted. However, diversity is important to me and I’m always open to things being pointed out. (In a respectful way).
  2. I’m 31, so not exactly young young…. although it is flattering when people mistake me for younger!
  3. I only take part in projects that I believe are beneficial to both my readers and mental health in general. Most of the work that I do is pro bono.
  4.  I’m 5 ft 7 and nine stone. That doesn’t mean that I’m not insecure about my body. On the contrary, I spent ten years truly believing that I was ugly. (But that’s another story). My point is, I don’t think it’s fair to use my weight against me.

That’s about everything for now. I’ll get off my soap box and make a cup of tea… no, not cammomile.

Love
Claire,
x x x x

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16 Comments

  1. Andy Sutton
    June 18, 2018 / 9:43 pm

    Hi Claire

    Tell them to do one. (and that’s polite). I saw the TfL stuff from here in Australia and I thought it was great. It must have taken a fair amount of courage to put yourself out there.

    What you do to destigmatise mental health is inspirational. If anyone is giving mental health issues a bad name it’s the people dissing you

    I know it’s tough. But ignore them. Haters gonna hate

    • allmadhere
      Author
      June 18, 2018 / 9:51 pm

      Thanks Andy. That means a lot xx

  2. Sharon Sibbald
    June 18, 2018 / 10:00 pm

    Hi Claire,
    You should never have to apologise for being yourself- you have been brave enough to stick your head above the parapet to show everyone that mental health issues does not discriminate, it does not have a certain ‘look’, a certain ‘voice ‘. We all have it in us to be vulnerable but it takes a courageous person to verbalise their vulnerabilities to help others – you are that person Claire. Do NOT let their weaknesses sap your strength.
    Sending you a big hug from someone who respects you very much x

    • allmadhere
      Author
      June 18, 2018 / 10:02 pm

      Cheers Sharon. I really appreciate you saying that xx

  3. Debra Fretwell
    June 19, 2018 / 5:36 am

    Ooh it’s a tough one as with many things that some people genuinely suffer from or need to go about their daily lives mental health has suddenly got trendy…remember when everyone thought wearing glasses was cool? I hear people everyday say “Oh I’m a bit OCD”…which if I had OCD would really annoy me!

    It’s great all the work you do to highlight mental health awareness keep going hunny and remember to rest as well xxx

  4. Carolyn
    June 19, 2018 / 7:17 am

    You are an amazing woman and an inspiration to me. I admire you for all that you do to raise awareness of the “cannot-be-seen-but-is-there” illness we suffer from. Basically f&£k them … keep on keeping on and keep in mind that you will have far more supporters than negative critics.

    • allmadhere
      Author
      June 19, 2018 / 7:18 am

      Xxxxxxxxxx

  5. June 19, 2018 / 10:28 am

    We can only “start where we are” and highlight the issues that are relevant/important to us as individuals. If other people think we are missing a trick, they can highlight those issues for themselves.
    Things I have learned:
    1. Never apologise for being yourself.
    2. Haters are generally projecting and talking about themselves, really.
    3. Some people will misunderstand, no matter what you do or why.
    4. Only children need explain.
    You are doing really important work with your blog and your outreach. The other important work is to take care of yourself.
    x

    • allmadhere
      Author
      June 19, 2018 / 10:48 am

      Thanks Lizzie. This is so helpful xxx

  6. Jasmine
    June 19, 2018 / 12:34 pm

    When I first heard you on BBC Radio 4 Woman’s hour a few years ago, when you were talking about Social Anxiety it was such a relief to find out that I was not on my own suffering with this condition and not a freak. Your blog has helped me so much and has helped me to help me! if that makes sense. I am really grateful xxx

  7. Mike
    June 19, 2018 / 6:12 pm

    I’m a 58 year old ex serviceman. I’ve had anxiety for a long time. I think you’re great and refer to your book regularly. Thank goodness for your campaigning and off you jog to your detractors.

  8. Mike
    June 19, 2018 / 7:07 pm

    Keep on keeping on….I really, truly appreciate you putting yourself out there for us..👍👍

  9. Steven
    June 20, 2018 / 8:29 am

    Hi Claire,
    I recently bought your book and think it will help many people with social anxiety especially those who are unsure of what they are suffering from or don’t know where to turn. I could relate to so much of it in my personal life. I really think you’re doing a great thing.

    Take care

    • allmadhere
      Author
      June 20, 2018 / 8:45 am

      Thanks Steven! 🙂

  10. Amy Fraser
    June 21, 2018 / 8:04 pm

    Totally agree with all the comments you have had on here…people that have nothing better to do than be nasty online are just pathetic…you are super brave to put yourself out there and so many people can relate to you!
    There are people that use the tubes that will totally understand what a struggle a rush-hour journey can be and I think campaigns like this that encorage people to be a little kinder to each other are a fab idea! Xxxx

    • allmadhere
      Author
      June 21, 2018 / 8:07 pm

      Thank you lovely! Xxxxx

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