A new year approaches and with it, endless opportunities. (Granted you can change your life any day), but there’s something about a new year that makes it feel more doable.
Yet, new years resolutions can be stressful. Will you lose weight? Volunteer at a charity? Finally get your shit together?
We put so much pressure on ourselves to ‘be better,’ ‘do better,’ become the best versions of ourselves.’ But do we ever stop and think about our well being? Our emotional well being.. Why not ask yourself, what would make you FEEL better?
This year I decided to take a leaf out of Matt Haig’s book. I made a list of all the things that make me happy, and a list of things that make me unhappy. It only takes ten minutes and is completely worth the time.
I’ve trimmed my lists for this post, as they were both rather long. However, there’s no limit, so be sure to really go for it.
- Watching a film with my husband, (commentating throughout which drives him mad). Pizza & wine is involved too
- Spending time with my family
- Going to the pub with close friends
- Playing with Rigby my dog. (In fairness doing anything with her = happiness
- Going to the gym in fancy gear! (Rather than dressed like a skank). The gym is a funny one. Sometimes I really can’t be arsed, but I always feel great once I’m there.
- Reading a book with a posh candle burning. I bloody love aromatherapy!
- Writing. Whether it be my blog, a letter to a friend, or my new book. Writing is my happy place.
- Ignoring my mental health. Even with all the knowledge that I have, I still get tripped up. It’s important to recognise and accept when I’m not feeling well
- Drinking too much wine. (Even though it seems like a good idea in the heat of the moment, I always feel like sh** later)
- Staying in slob clothes all day, rather than getting dressed
- Not eating enough nutrients and feeling tired and crap as a result
- Not making time to relax and burning out. (This can put me in bed)
- Following the wrong people on Instagram/Twitter. Some people make me feel bad about myself, but I follow them because I feel like I ought to
- Trying to do a thousand things at once, rather than taking the time to focus on key goals
Once you have your lists, make a plan of action. For example:
“In 2018 I will use hypnotherapy to help me relax, and do it for ten minutes every day. (I tried mindfulness and didn’t like it). I will commit to it in the same way that I would a work project. It will become part of my routine.”
“Even if I’m not going out, I vow to get dressed properly and do my hair. It might feel pointless at the time, but I know that it will make me feel better.”
I would suggest choosing two or three things of each list initially, to keep things simple. However, keep the lists somewhere handy where you can always look at them.
This is the last post of the year from me! I’d like to thank everyone for their support and love in 2017, I’m nothing without my awesome readers! 🙂
I wish everyone a happy new year. BRING ON 2018!!