Am I Going Crazy? Or Is It My Period?

**Trigger warning for men. This post is about the female menstrual cycle. Don’t read if the topic makes you uncomfortable.**

If you’re a woman, I’d wager that every month you experience a spell of what feels like temporary insanity, otherwise known as YOUR PERIOD. That’s right, I’m addressing the elephant in the room that “women use as an excuse to have a moan” (I won’t confirm who said that to me, but I will say that I accidentally knocked over his pint, 75% of which fell onto his lap. It was glorious)!.

In many ways I do sympathise with men. A menstrual cycle is hard to explain and even harder to understand, unless you’ve experienced one.

I once described it to my husband as;

“Imagine that your balls are really aching and you can’t do anything about it. You feel hot, bloated and so tired that you could easily fall asleep on the office floor. Oh and on top of all that, your mood switches rapidly from anger, sadness, insecure, then back to anger again. WITH NO EXPLANATION!”

Just recently I found myself sobbing hysterically on the bathroom floor (such a cliche I know), because I’d smashed my favourite mug. The smashing of the mug was not just
a random accident, it proved to me that I was a failure in every single way. OR…. maybe… maybe, it was PMS? I’m not sure, I’ll let a judge decide.

If you have a mental health condition, then a dose of the old menstrual cycle is like adding fuel to an open camp fire. BOOM! It took me a long time to equate the two, but it’s so obvious.

“Research suggests that lower estrogen levels cause serotonin levels to drop precipitously a few days before menstruation. Low levels of serotonin are implicated in anxiety, panic disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder … you’re even more physically sensitive to pain than usual, and more emotionally sensitive. You’re less resilient in the face of stresses and feel sadder, hungrier, and more scared, tearful, and angsty.” Dr. Julie Holland, from her book Moody Bitches. 

Serotonin is the magic word that all you ‘crazy’ folk will understand. We don’t produce enough of it, so if the menstrual cycle alters the levels, then basically we’re f**ked
we’re already at a disadvantage.

Rather than being at the mercy of your bleeding vagina. (Why mince words)? I would suggest a more proactive approach. Try and make a note of what happens in the days before and after you menstruate. This way, at least you can plan ahead. (I’ve recently started doing this). For example, two days before I bleed, I tend to feel either very irritable or emotional. During my bleed I’m really tired and bloated, and two days after I’m done, I feel low and empty.

So for me, this highlights three key areas to focus on:

Stage 1: Two days prior – Increase my serotonin medication to re-address the balance. (Obviously talk to your doctor first, if this is something you also want to consider). Other ways of doing this is via Omega three vitamins, or eating lots of oily fish. Also, I make the people close to me aware of how I’m feeling and ask them to be patient if I’m snappy. To be honest, Dan just stays out of my way and brings me fizz!

Stage 2: One day prior – increase my iron intake. When a woman bleeds she loses quantities of iron, which can cause fatigue. I’ve started taking irons tablets and increasing my spinach and broccoli intake. It’s not a cure, but I have noticed a difference. Caffeine and sugar might be a quick fix, but you’ll soon notice the drop.
Also, wear giant comfy knickers because seriously who gives a shit? I buy decent sanitary towels too, because comfort is everything.

Stage 3: One day after – Cardio exercise to boost my mood and I plan activities to keep my brain engaged, both personally and professionally. Also, I don’t allow myself to wallow for more than a few hours. It’s not easy, but getting up and doing something, even if it’s just a walk around the block, always lifts my mood.

Sending massive love to all the women out there who deal with both mental illness and a bleeding vagina. You’re a warrior and you should treat yourself as such!

YES… I DO want another piece of cake!




  1. Ruth
    18 July 2017 / 4:37 pm

    After what I went through in June this is soooo relatable and explains A LOT!!!

  2. 18 July 2017 / 6:56 pm

    Periods really screw with me. I recently started getting panic attacks and nausea so I started birth control to see if I could ease them. Fingers crossed.

    • allmadhere
      18 July 2017 / 7:06 pm

      That’s really interesting. I hope it helps xx

  3. amy
    18 July 2017 / 9:10 pm

    LOVE this post! It’s so positive to talk about something that is usually such a ‘hush-hush’ subject…us women have alot to deal with and we shouldn’t be afraid to talk about it! X

    • allmadhere
      18 July 2017 / 9:36 pm

      Dam straight! Thanks Amy xx

  4. Michelle
    30 July 2017 / 12:40 pm

    Ha ha, loved reading this!! Can totally relate to it too. Thanks for posting!👍🏻

  5. 3 August 2017 / 8:03 pm

    This post is seriously one of the best explanations of having a period that I have ever read! The key areas to focus on is really helpful as well because I tend to just struggle through it and cry when anything even slightly difficult happens to me! So having something to work at counteracting PMS while also dealing with anxiety is absolutely AMAZING! Thank you so much for this post. I love it.

    • allmadhere
      3 August 2017 / 8:25 pm

      I’m so glad you like it! Thanks Layne 😊

  6. Sarah
    23 April 2018 / 8:06 am

    I guffawed .

  7. Maz
    29 October 2018 / 3:56 pm

    So I lay on the sofa moping, I cried, I got angry, I stabbed a carboard box to death and smashed my boyfriends wing mirror ( He needed it off, Im not an actual psycho) and none of it made me feel better. Then I read this ans now feel better. Thank you x

    • allmadhere
      29 October 2018 / 8:04 pm

      I kind of love you… & your honesty! X

  8. Sally Notton
    10 April 2019 / 12:12 am

    I haven’t always suffered with this, but in the last year it’s become REALLY apparent! Thanks for summing this up so accurately! It’s made me feel a little less mental and a little more human. It’s good to know we are not alone. Nicely done, cheers, Sally

  9. Kathryn Schofield
    19 June 2019 / 11:26 pm

    Hmm, serotonin connection, it’s all so obvious now…
    Even if the period isn’t predictable and in on-time cycles, the horrible 2-day-before experience is like the aura of a migraine (sometimes possibly is). 2.5 days at the most in the ‘I hate myself, my husband, my you-name-it’ and there it will roll in.

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